Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Guys, guys, pay attention. Women leave the room. This is about men. You, as a guy, want to give advice and help fix the problem, help solve the problem. The woman did not ask for advice. All she wants to do is to be heard. But most importantly, you need to find out what the woman in your life's love language is. Because if you can find out what her love language is, then you can use it. What men, Every man does wrong in a relationship. He's built multimillion dollar companies. His explosive books on health and wealth have sold over 60 million copies. Now, the Kevin Trudeau Show. They don't want you to know.
[00:00:52] Kevin Trudeau here. Thanks for joining me. You're. You're watching Limitless, the Kevin Trudeau Show. Everything they don't want you to know about today.
[00:01:00] Guys, guys, pay attention. Women leave the room. This is about men.
[00:01:06] What men Every man does wrong in a relationship.
[00:01:14] All right, guys, there's a lot of you out there that are single, thinking, hey, tell me how to get a date. Tell me how to get a girl to like me. Maybe you're dating someone.
[00:01:28] Maybe you're thinking, what can I do to get the relationship better?
[00:01:33] Maybe you've been in a relationship for a long time, or maybe you're married. What can you do to make the relationship better?
[00:01:41] Or as I said, maybe you're just looking for a date. You're trying to meet somebody. Maybe women blow you off all the time or leave you.
[00:01:50] Maybe things aren't smooth in the relationship.
[00:01:54] Guys, you need to pay attention, because this show today, what guys do wrong in a relationship, that's screwing up your relationship, giving you stress, anxiety, and you're not getting as much sex as you want. And the sex isn't as good as you want. Guys, it's your fault.
[00:02:17] So what do guys do wrong in a relationship?
[00:02:22] Answer everything.
[00:02:27] Women, go away. You don't want to hear this. This is for men only.
[00:02:31] But the children away. Men only. 100% men only.
[00:02:38] Guys do everything wrong in a relationship. So let me go through just a whole litany of things, and you're going to be thinking, ah, that's probably me.
[00:02:47] First off, let's deal with grooming.
[00:02:52] Now, look, we live in a casual world today. I am in a sport coat. Actually, I'm in a suit. I'm in a suit. Not even a sport coat. A suit, okay? I don't have a tie on, but I'm in a suit. Who the hell wears a suit today? Nobody. You don't have to wear a suit. You don't have to wear a sport coat, you don't have to wear expensive clothes.
[00:03:15] But grooming is important in a relationship, gentlemen, because it subconsciously tells the woman you care about yourself and you care about them. You are interested in what they think and how they feel. It shows that you are putting forth effort to make a good impression. So it doesn't mean you have to be in a suit and tie. But are you putting any effort into the clothing you're wearing?
[00:03:53] I mean, most guys have two piles of clothes. They have the dirty and the not so dirty.
[00:04:00] Get fresh clothes.
[00:04:02] They shouldn't be wrinkled.
[00:04:05] Make an effort. They should kind of go together.
[00:04:09] Make an effort with your look. It can be as casual as you want, but make an effort. When you're going to be around a woman or the woman in your life, the person you're married to, the person you're in a relationship with, put forth an effort with the clothing. This subconsciously is going to make a huge difference because it's telling the woman, subconsciously, I am making an effort.
[00:04:38] I want you to know that the relationship is something I value highly.
[00:04:47] It shows that the woman is a priority in your life.
[00:04:55] If you can make the woman feel honestly, genuinely and authentically that she is a priority in your life, things will change for the better in a magical, powerful way. And one way to do that, and there's many, but one way to do that is by putting a little effort into what you're wearing.
[00:05:21] Next, grooming guys.
[00:05:27] You have a smell.
[00:05:31] That smell can be very attractive to a woman.
[00:05:38] If you're a man and you come back from the gym many times, you're putting out a massive amount of pheromones. And even though you have what another guy would classify as an offensive odor, it can be very attractive to a female because the pheromones attract women.
[00:05:58] However, you can't guarantee that. And I would suggest that most guys have an odor that is consciously or subconsciously repelling the woman away from you.
[00:06:13] Groom. In the old days, it was completely normal for a guy to come home from work and before he went out on a date, he would take a shower. He would use underarm deodorant as well as an antiperspirant. There's two things he didn't want to smell, and he also didn't want to have perspiration. But back in those days, we wore an undershirt, which is different than a T shirt. It's an undershirt, it's very thin, and the top of it comes down so that you don't see it if the collar is open where a T shirt comes up here. And a T shirt is thicker. An undershirt is something you put under your shirt to absorb perspiration so you don't ruin your shirts and you can make them last longer.
[00:06:58] So we used to have a shower, and we used to use underarm deodorant and an antiperspirant. It was usually something that did both antiperspirant and deodorant in one because we didn't want to smell.
[00:07:12] Next, we used to put on some cologne. Not a lot, but a little, because we wanted to have an appealing smell. We understood that smell is something that is subconscious as well as conscious and can attract or repel a woman. So, guys, what you do wrong is you don't think about what you smell like. You're not bathing, you're not keeping yourself clean, or you use too much cologne. And there's not a lot of guys that even use cologne anymore. I've met a lot of guys, and I never smell anything. There's only one or two guys that I know that actually use some cologne. And I'm not saying you have to use cologne, but the mistake you make is you either use too much cologne or you're not really aware of your body odor.
[00:08:02] Back in our day, if I was on a date with somebody and we were at a restaurant, let's say an Italian restaurant, and there was a dish that I knew had garlic in it, I would be petrified about eating anything with garlic because my breath was going to smell of garlic, and the garlic would come through my pores, and that garlic was going to be offensive to the person that I'm with.
[00:08:26] So I would ask, what are you ordering? She goes, I'm not too sure. Well, are you going to order something with garlic in it? Because if you are, then I am, and we would both laugh. She goes, I love garlic. Okay, let's both eat things with garlic in it, because now she smells like garlic, I smell like garlic, and we're not going to be offensive to each other. It was a normal thing. Nobody even thinks about that anymore. Hey, the good news is, today most garlic is air. And you don't even smell like garlic. It doesn't even give you any taste because it's all coming in from China and it doesn't have any garlicky flavor anyway. But the point is, the second thing you do wrong is smell. You're not aware of your smell. Now, I'm going to digress for a moment because I mentioned the word pheromones, guys, if you want to be attractive to a woman, you can buy pheromones. Pheromones are something you can put on. They have no noticeable smell at all. Some of the pheromone products you buy actually have a cologne in them. I don't recommend them. Athena Institute is the one that has the best pheromones. And there's also a product called oxytocin, which is an odorless pheromone which makes a person feel trust toward you and a strong bond and connection. So male pheromones, which will attract the woman, make you appear sexy, are very effective. And also oxytocin, okay, so put that off to the side. That's kind of a little trick for the guys, and it'll make your romance much better. By the way, all the research on that is just so off the charts. One particular study where they took a guy and they took two guys. They had two guys that looked very similar, they dressed very similar, similar height and build and so forth. And one of them, they didn't know who because it was a double blind study. One of them, they sprayed with Athena Institute pheromones and the other one got sprayed with water. Nothing. They didn't know what was what. And they both went to two ends of the bar and they had a video camera hidden in. And over the next hour, women kept floating over to the guy who had the pheromones. And the other guy was like, by himself.
[00:10:29] And then they said, okay, let's switch positions. And they switched positions. And then over an hour, the women started floating onto the other side of the bar where the guy was. It was really cool, like this magnetic pull. So that stuff kind of works. All right, next mistake that men do, big mistake.
[00:10:51] They don't act like men.
[00:10:53] Now, this is very.
[00:10:56] This is a slippery slope. But let me give you the info here.
[00:11:00] David Dieter wrote several books. One's called Intimate Communion. Highly recommend and endorse it. The second book was called the Way of the Superior Man.
[00:11:12] Highly recommend and endorse it. If you are a man and you want to basically get better with women and increase relationships in a positive way, read those two books. You will learn a lot. So I'm not going to discuss what's in those books. I'm just going to talk about the fact that men have to act like a man. And let me tell you what that really means when it comes into a relationship with a woman.
[00:11:38] Women generally. And I'm going to talk in some generalities and of course there's going to be a woman who writes something in the comments and says he's 100% wrong. That's not me. Okay, you're an outlier. You're in the 5 or 10% of women that this doesn't apply to. So this is a generalization, but it's an overwhelming generalization, which means it's about 80 or 90% of women will fall into this category.
[00:12:04] Women are attracted to men who, number one, are confident.
[00:12:10] If you're not confident, women are not going to be attracted to you and the relationship is going to falter. This happens consciously, but more importantly, it happens subconsciously. When a woman is in a relationship with a man, it could be her husband. You could be her husband or boyfriend or someone you're just dating casually.
[00:12:35] Subconsciously, the woman wants to be with a man who has confidence.
[00:12:44] There's a book that you should read called how to have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People by Les Giblin. It will explain in great detail the need and the how to increasing confidence in dealing with other people.
[00:13:02] A woman wants to be with a man and is attracted consciously or subconsciously with a man who is not weak, but who is strong, not arrogant, but who is confident.
[00:13:16] Guys, you need to be confident in yourself.
[00:13:21] And there's another angle of this. Do you know where you're going? Do you have a goal in life? Do you have drive? Are you motivated?
[00:13:34] Are you someone who is out there trying to make something happen?
[00:13:39] Women subconsciously are attracted to a man who goes for what he wants and is committed to getting it.
[00:13:50] If you don't have that attribute in your business or in your career, that's going to weaken your ability to attract women. And it's also going to weaken the relationship because the woman doesn't feel like she's with a man.
[00:14:08] She feels like she's with a boy. I was talking to a gal one time and we were chatting. Drop dead gorgeous, by the way. Tall, blond, great figure, athletic, great smile, beautiful eyes. And we were chatting and I said, you know, what are you doing this evening? She goes, nothing. I'm just gonna go home. I'll probably do nothing. I'll probably just hang out at the house. And I go, you don't have a date tonight? She goes, no, I don't have a date. And I said, oh, so you're not seeing anyone? She goes, no, I was, but we broke up. And I go, well, what happened? She goes, I don't know. I'm just, you know, the boys. I go out with, there's just.
[00:14:48] I don't understand.
[00:14:50] And I said, you know what your problem is? You're going out with boys and not men. And she was a woman, she wasn't a young girl. And she looked at me and I said, stop going out with boys.
[00:15:03] Go out with men.
[00:15:05] And she goes, you know, that's exactly right. All the guys I've gone out with, and they're in their late 20s, 30s, she goes, they're boys. She goes, you're right. Doesn't mean somebody older, just somebody who's a man.
[00:15:22] All of a sudden, bam. In a relationship, happy as a clam. She goes, the guy's a real man.
[00:15:28] What makes him a man? She says, he knows where he's going in life, and he's committed to getting there. He has drive, he has ambition.
[00:15:41] Guys, if you don't have ambition in your life, there's something wrong. And somebody says, kevin, I don't know what it is. I just don't have a lot of drive. I don't have a lot of ambition. No. You should do a little test. You can go online and get your hormones tested, test your testosterone levels, your estrogen levels, test your IGF1 levels, see what's wrong. You probably have low T. Especially if you're living in America because of all the crap that you eat. Your testosterone is probably low. If your testosterone was higher, then you have motivation and drive. For men, you need high testosterone. And what's the level, by the way? If you're doing a blood test or a saliva test, should be around 1100-1500. And that's not that great. I mean, you do DNA analysis on Roman soldiers back in the Roman empire, they had 3,500 testosterone counts. These were aggressive guys with drive and motivation. That testosterone makes you, I mean, man, a beast, plus muscles. And you're throwing off all these great pheromones. And women are attracted to you. Doesn't mean you're arrogant or anything negative like that. It just means you have drive and motivation. You are acting as a real man.
[00:16:58] What else do guys do wrong?
[00:17:01] Guys don't listen to women, all right? Researchers have shown that women speak in a day two or three times more words than men.
[00:17:18] Men only have so many words that can come out of their mouth in a day. Most men, I know a couple guys who love to talk, and that's all they do is talk. And they're not in that category. But those are rare exceptions. But generally, guys only have so many words that they can talk. And researchers have proven this to be true. So when you go home, guys, or if you're on a date, let the woman talk.
[00:17:46] You should listen.
[00:17:50] Listen intently. Allow the woman to talk. And for a lot of guys, this is hard because there's a different language that women speak compared to men.
[00:18:02] There's another book you should read.
[00:18:05] It's called Men are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by my good friend John Gray.
[00:18:12] It's brilliant, and it explains the differences between women and men, generally speaking. And when you understand this, you'll be able to have better relationships with the women in your life. But the mistake that guys do is they assume that a woman is going to think and act like them. That's the mistake you do. Guys, they're not. They don't think like men. They don't act like men. They don't speak like men. They like to talk.
[00:18:42] Guys generally like to think. Women generally like to express feelings, generalization. So, guys, when you're with your women, let them talk and listen to them.
[00:18:58] The mistake that men make in relationships is they don't hear what the woman is saying. They're really not paying attention, and they're really not listening.
[00:19:10] So I'll give you some magic words when you are listening to a woman.
[00:19:17] First, lean in just a little bit.
[00:19:21] Do this. As they're talking.
[00:19:24] Look at them in the eye.
[00:19:28] Be interested.
[00:19:30] Next, say when they're done. I hear you.
[00:19:38] Those are the magic words. I hear you.
[00:19:42] Another way of saying it is you could say, I get what you're saying, and then repeat some of the exact phrases that the woman said. This makes her light up like a Christmas tree, subconsciously, because she realizes that you actually were paying attention and listen to what you she said when you repeat it.
[00:20:07] So the mistake men make is they don't listen. They use body language as the woman's talking, which shows they don't care what the woman's saying. That's the mistake. So use body language that by leaning forward and listening and looking them at the eye and then saying, I hear you. I get what you're saying. And then say, you said such and such. And you said such and such. And now you can make a comment or two.
[00:20:37] Don't talk too much. Let them do the talking.
[00:20:41] The other mistake that men make is generally a woman will express a concern or a challenge that they're having in their life or a problem that they're dealing with. Men like to fix things.
[00:20:57] This is not a guy you're talking to, fellas. This is a woman. So when a woman is telling about her problems of the day or a problem she had with a co worker or a problem she has with her boss or problems she had with somebody, the owner of the dry cleaners or whatever. You as a guy want to give advice and help fix the problem, help solve the problem. So you start giving advice.
[00:21:26] Cancel. Cancel. The woman did not ask for advice. All she wants to do is to be heard.
[00:21:37] And all you have to do is, I hear you. And you can add this phrase, I can imagine what you're feeling. Now, that's a very powerful phrase. Write that down. Don't say, I understand how you're feeling, because she may be offended. No, you don't. You don't know how I feel. But you could say, I imagine. I can imagine how you must be feeling now.
[00:22:03] That's wonderful. That opens things up. So the mistake that guys make is when they listen, they try to give a solution, they try to fix the problem, and they give an opinion when it wasn't asked.
[00:22:17] Next, what mistake do men make?
[00:22:21] There are five love languages and there's a book called the Five Love Languages. And for free you can go online and punch in how to find what love language I use. And there's a little online test. It's free.
[00:22:39] I think you have to give your email address or something so you'll get on their mailing list. But you can take the test for free and you can find out what your love language is. But most importantly, you need to find out what the woman in your life's love language is. Because if you can find out what her love language is, then you can use it. So what are the five love languages? As an example, one love language is compliments, words of affirmation.
[00:23:11] So some people feel loved and appreciated if their partner says things like, I love you, you're wonderful, you're so beautiful. I love being with you. You're so intelligent. Compliments, words of affirmation. For some people, when you say those words internally, subconsciously, they light up like a Christmas tree. But for other people, it's like it goes in one ear and out the other and has no effect. So another person's love language may be gifts.
[00:23:46] You come home and you give one rose and they light up like a Christmas tree. You buy some chocolates, they light up like a Christmas tree. You buy a little trinket, doesn't have to be expensive, but a gift, a token, this makes that person light up like a Christmas tree. So for some people, their love language is receiving gifts. Now, if you know your partner, their Love language is words of affirmation. And you keep bringing home gifts. You're getting no impact. You're not connecting with the person. You have to use words of affirmation. Another love language is acts of service. I was talking to a gal one time, beautiful woman, very intelligent, very successful. And we were chatting about this, and she says, you know, if you come over my house, you can tell me any compliment you walk, it's going to have no effect. You can buy me presents, it's going to have no effect. She goes, but if you take the trash out, she goes, I will throw you on the bed and attack you and make love to you all night long. Because that is going to drive me crazy. If you put the trash out and do something without being asked, some act of service. If you wash the dishes, she goes, oh, my God, you never. I'm ripping your clothes off right in the. As you're washing the dishes. She goes, that just drives me. That makes me go crazy.
[00:25:12] So she was telling me, this is my love language, okay? So use it, Kevin. And it makes a lot of sense. And there are other love languages, too. Touch. Some people like to be hugged or kissed or touched. Rub their back, rub their shoulders, hold their hand. That touch is a love language for them and other people, it's like, leave me alone. You know, I don't want to have public displays of affection. When we're in the bedroom and we're naked, then you can touch me, but not now. So some people touching is not a love language. For others it is, and the other one is spending time with the individual. Some people like to be alone, like, leave me alone, you know, you're smothering me. Leave me alone. Where another person, they want to be with you, and the fact that you say, you know, let's just sit together and both read a book, but you're both sitting next to each other. For some person, just being in the same space, spending quality time together, doing things together, let's go for a walk. Let's do this together. Let's do that together. Let's do this together. Let's do that together. That is a love language for some people, and it makes all the difference. So what mistake guys make? What guys do wrong is they don't put any emphasis on using the love language that your partner responds to.
[00:26:40] Learn what their love language is and then use their love language.
[00:26:46] Let me tell you another mistake that guys make.
[00:26:49] They don't keep their agreements.
[00:26:53] They make promises and break them. They make agreements and break them.
[00:27:00] If you Want to have an effective, loving, passionate relationship.
[00:27:08] If you make an agreement, keep the agreement. If you make a promise, keep the promise. And it can be a little thing as subtle as, honey, I'll be home tonight at 5:30.
[00:27:24] If you say that and you show up at 5:45 without saying anything, you're an idiot. This is a mistake. Guys make women remember everything you said.
[00:27:40] Keep agreements. And I'll tell you an interesting story.
[00:27:44] I met this gallon in California. This is probably 30 years ago.
[00:27:49] She was on the COVID of Maxim magazine, and she was one of Maxim magazine's top 100 models of the year. Pretty attractive gal. She was on many television shows. Attractive woman.
[00:28:03] And I was introduced to her by a mutual friend. And we went out and we had a nice lunch. I invited her up to my place the next day so I could show her Ojai, California. She came up for the day, we had a nice lunch. I'm showing her around and we're getting to know each other. And she said she wants to learn Spanish.
[00:28:24] And I said, oh, that's interesting. I'm working with a company right now that has a program called Accelerated Learning and it's a language program on Spanish. She goes, oh, I would love that. And I says, well, I'll have them send it to you. She goes, oh, really? She goes, that would be very sweet of you. I go, yeah, I know them, so I'll get one to send it to you. And then we continued our conversation. And she left in the afternoon, went back to Beverly Hills where she was living. And I, immediately after she left, called the company and the guys that I knew and said, hey, here's her address. Can you send it to us? And send it Federal Express. I'll pay for it. The next day she gets a Federal Express with the program. She calls me up and she says, I got the Accelerated Learning Spanish program. I says, oh, good, I'm glad you got it. Yeah, I had them send it Federal Express. I'm glad you were home to get it. She goes, I can't believe you sent it. I said, why? I told you I was going to send it. She goes, no, guys say they're going to do things all the time and they never do.
[00:29:26] You actually did.
[00:29:28] And she lit up like a Christmas tree. And I says, well, yeah, if I tell you I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it. She goes, you are a special man. I says, what are you doing tonight? She goes, I'm free. I said, come on up, man.
[00:29:42] She thought I was the Greatest guy in the world simply because I said I was going to do something and actually did it.
[00:29:51] So guys, if you say you're going to do something, do it.
[00:29:58] Keep your promises, keep your agreements 100%.
[00:30:07] Next.
[00:30:09] So the mistake guys make is they don't keep agreements.
[00:30:12] Next mistake guys make.
[00:30:15] It goes similar to they're not acting like men.
[00:30:20] Now, when you're with a woman, women generally like the man to take the lead. And I say this, women I know are not watching because I told you to leave the room or shut it off. This is for men only. Women generally like a man to take the lead.
[00:30:44] I met a gal years ago, and by the way, I've been single my whole life, so I've dated quite a lot.
[00:30:52] Just so you know.
[00:30:54] So I met a gal years ago. She was a cheerleader for an NFL football team. And the only reason I say that is she was a good looking woman, very athletic, good looking woman with a lot of guys going after her all the time. And she left that and became very successful in business. So I met her after she was a cheerleader and she was successful in business.
[00:31:16] And we hit it off and started talking and I said, would you like to get together for dinner maybe next week? She goes, I'd love to. Give me your number. So I call her up and I said, hey, are you free Friday night for dinner? She goes, yeah, I am. Great.
[00:31:32] I said, meet me at this restaurant at this time.
[00:31:37] She goes, okay. And we went there and we sat down and we were talking. And she says, you know, you did something that most guys don't do. And I said, what's that? She goes, you took charge.
[00:31:54] You told me what restaurant we were going to go to and what time and told me to meet me there and meet you there. She goes, do you know? I go, well, how else am I supposed to ask you out on a date? She said, well, most guys are like, oh, do you feel like getting together sometime? Yeah, I'd love to. Okay, well, when do you think you'd want to get together?
[00:32:18] That's what a guy does. She says, you said, are you free Friday night? You were specific. And I said, yes. And you said, great. And you were already prepared. You had made a reservation, you knew the restaurant and you had the time and it had it all already booked. You took charge. She goes, most guys would say, like, do you want to get together for dinner sometime? And I would say, yes. And then the guy would say, oh, well, when's a good day? When would you like to get together? And then I'd say, well, how about Friday night? And then the idiot guy would say, okay, where do you want to go? And she's like, you know, why don't you be a man and just tell me where we're going.
[00:33:02] Pick a restaurant, for God's sakes. Be a man. And she's just as what she's telling me at dinner. She goes, and I said, are you telling me that guys don't just ask you out on a particular night and then say, great, let's go to this restaurant? I mean, they may ask a question, and sometimes I may ask a question like, what kind of food do you like? Oh, I love Italian. Perfect. I know exactly where we're going to go.
[00:33:26] That's what a man does. And women respond to that very positively. Now, I asked a gal on a date I didn't know at all, but she was very, very nice. We connected. There was some instant chemistry. And I said, listen, we need to get together for dinner sometime. She said, I'd love to. And I said, what type of food do you like? She goes, I'm a vegetarian.
[00:33:47] She goes, but I do eat fish.
[00:33:49] I'm thinking, well, you're not a vegetarian. But she told me she ate fish. I says, great. I don't know a fish restaurant offhand. I said, give me your number. I'll call you later today and I'll tell you where we're going to meet up for dinner tonight. She goes, okay. So I immediately went online and found a fish place that was close to her. And I said, hey, you've ever been to this restaurant? She goes, no, but I heard about it. It's supposed to be really good. I said, I've never been either. Let's go. It was a fish restaurant. I says, meet me over there at such and such a time. Now, in today's world, in my day, 30 years ago, I would never have a girl meet me at a restaurant. I would pick her up at her house. But in today's world, it's more appropriate. I think on a first date, they have meat at the restaurant. Afterwards, you can start picking them up. But the mistake that guys make is they don't take the lead. And there's a difference between controlling being controlling and oppressive and demanding. There's a difference between that and taking the lead, still being respectful of the other person, but taking the lead.
[00:34:59] So, for example, some women do like to collaborate and be involved in a decision, but take the lead in starting a conversation. And if you know that person likes to collaborate, then you could say, hey, let's go to a movie Friday night. Oh, I'd love to. Great. Is there any movie that's out that you've been dying to see? No. Okay, Is there any genre that you can't stand? Oh, I hate horror movies. Okay, what genre do you like? I love comedies. Great. I'll pick a movie and I'll call and let you know.
[00:35:37] Now, it's a collaboration, but you're still taking the lead. The mistake that men make is they don't take the lead. Okay, next mistake that men make. Now we're going to start getting intimate.
[00:35:53] Most men make a mistake because they don't learn how to kiss.
[00:35:58] I've been with women who also did not know how to kiss, and I could not go out with them anymore. I was with this beautiful woman, incredibly successful, incredibly intelligent, wonderful, spectacular conversations. We had a lot in common. And when I said goodnight, we kissed each other.
[00:36:20] And it was the worst kiss of my life. And I'm thinking, I can't be with this gal because she doesn't know how to kiss guys. I can tell you, most guys don't know how to kiss. How do I know that? Because I've been with a couple gals on a few dates in my long life, and I've kissed a few gals in my life.
[00:36:45] And most of the women that I've kissed have told me, wow, you actually know how to kiss. And I go, what do you mean? She goes, guys don't know how to kiss. And I hear it over and over and over and over and over from women who tell me that men don't know how to kiss.
[00:37:03] You need to learn how to kiss. You need to learn how to kiss.
[00:37:08] I learned how to kiss when I was younger.
[00:37:11] How did I learn how to kiss? I asked women, girls that I wasn't dating, but girls that were friends of mine, and I said, what's the best way to kiss? I don't know how to kiss. And we would both laugh. I says, you've been kissed by guys before. What's a good kisser? What's a bad kisser? And we would have these discussions and we wouldn't practice because they were colleagues or friends of mine, but we would have discussions. Today with the Internet on YouTube, you can find all these videos on how to kiss. Guys, the mistake you made is you think you're the best kisser in the world, and the woman's not going to tell you, you're terrible. If you know how to kiss a girl, it's going to Make a big difference. So there are all these techniques about kissing, and it not just deals with the mouth and the pressure and movement and your tongue, but also what do you do with your hands when you're kissing. Do you cradle the woman's face? Do you hold her behind the lower back? Do you grab her arms and pull her in? There's many, many techniques, depending on the woman, of whether it should be a soft, passionate kiss or an aggressive kiss, like you're James Bond grabbing the woman. Some women really prefer that as opposed to the soft. But generally all those things from time to time are beautiful ways of kissing. Guys don't know how to kiss. So the mistake you make is you don't know how to kiss.
[00:38:32] Next mistake that guys make, they don't know how to make love. They don't know how to have sex. You don't know how to have intercourse. You really don't.
[00:38:42] There were books when I grew up. One book was called how to Make Love to a Single Woman, which I always thought was stupid because who else are you going to be making love to? I'm not going to be making love to a married woman or a woman in a relationship. It should be how to Make Love to a Woman, because what if you're married? And I want to learn how to make love to my wife. But the name of the book was how to Make Love to a Single Woman, which I thought was goofy. And this is back in the 70s, right? So reading the book, okay, and it gave these interesting methods and techniques and so forth and so on, and I learned. And then I talked to my older male friends and said, look, you know, I'm a young guy here. I don't know anything. They don't teach this in school.
[00:39:27] Back then, there was no videos, there wasn't porn to watch, which is the worst thing in the world. You don't watch porn to learn how to make love necessarily because they're doing positions for filming, not for the act of pleasure to the partner.
[00:39:44] But guys learn how to make love. And today there are all these video courses available on how to have intercourse, how to have sex, how to make love to a woman. There is an art to it, and if you become better and help the woman reach orgasm, you are going to increase the connection in the relationship. And this also includes oral sex. Mistake that guys make is they don't know how to perform oral sex properly and they don't even know if the woman likes it or not.
[00:40:18] So learn these things and it's going to help and improve the relationship with the woman that you're with.
[00:40:26] Next mistake that guys make is you have very low. I'm about to say zero, but it's very low consciousness or awareness of the woman, what her feelings are and what her thoughts are. Unfortunately, women talk in code and they keep secrets. They will pout around the house and a guy, I'll walk in and the woman is pouting, hey, honey, how are you? And I go to give the gal a kiss and she's very cold. Clearly something's wrong. And she doesn't say anything. And she pouts around and I'm waiting for her to say something, but she doesn't. So then I'll say, honey, what's wrong? You seem a little out of sorts. Are you upset with me about something, honey? What happened or what did I do? Well, if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you.
[00:41:32] And now it's like, okay, I'm playing clue. I'm like, I got to figure out the mystery here.
[00:41:42] Maybe I use hot and cold. Am I getting hotter? Am I getting colder? Tell me, how aware are you? Back when I was younger, this happened from time to time because I had very little awareness and consciousness of my partner's needs, wants, desires and feelings. It was all about me.
[00:42:03] But once I started really thinking about the other person and listening to what they say, listening to what they like, listening to what their needs are. Now I knew, oh, I can't do this because she's not going to like this. Now you start increasing your awareness and consciousness and you can start acting and reacting or doing and not doing things so that the other person is going to be happy or not.
[00:42:32] And this has happened on several occasions. And I remember when I was younger, I did something and the woman got pouty and didn't tell me what it was. And it took a whole day for me to figure out the mystery of what I did to offend her. And I had no interest or no desire to offend her. I wasn't trying to offend her in any way possible. But clearly this action offended her.
[00:42:57] I did not defend myself.
[00:43:01] This is a mistake that most guys make. I didn't say, that's ridiculous. There's no reason you should feel that way. I didn't try to offend you. I didn't have any inclination of hurting you in any way. That's. You were wrong. You're wrong to feel that way. Don't invalidate the woman if she is feeling pissed off or upset. Guys invalidate. That's the Mistake. The mistake is to invalidate her feelings. If she's upset with something you did, it's irrelevant if what you did shouldn't upset her. And it's a ridiculous reason to be upset. You may be thinking that, but don't invalidate her. All you have to do is say, I can see how my actions would make you feel upset.
[00:43:53] Don't say, I'm sorry. Use these words, I apologize.
[00:43:59] Sometimes that diffuses it right away. Sometimes it still takes two days before they get over it.
[00:44:05] But be aware and conscious now, the next time. This was a couple months down the road, I was in a similar, similar situation and I remembered and I said, aha.
[00:44:20] All I had to do was call in advance. I pick up the phone and call and go, honey, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I think it was because I was late or it was something goofy. And she goes, thank you so much. That means so much to me. You actually listened four months ago when we had the conversation again. Women have the best memories in the world of everything you do wrong.
[00:44:43] So when you do that, they light up like a Christmas tree. So the mistake that people make that men make is they're not aware and conscious. They invalidate the person and they don't learn from their mistake.
[00:44:57] This is going to make a huge difference in your life.
[00:45:00] The books again that I strongly recommend and endorse. Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus by John Gray.
[00:45:07] Intimate Communion by David Dieter. He's the author. The Way of the Superior man by David Dieter. And if you want to go one step further and deeper and really blow up the relationship, either listen to the audio course. It's available free to Global Information Network members. I don't even think you can find the audio course anywhere else. If you're a member of the Global Information Network, it's in the subject specific area of the website. It's free of charge. Otherwise you could find the out of print book called Light Her Fire by my good friend. I think she's passed away now. Ellen Kreidman. I interviewed her on TV 30 years ago on my show A Closer Look. Ellen Kreidman was on Oprah and she's a brilliant communicator on relationships. Light her Fire and it'll teach you the techniques and methods that you can use to light the fire in the woman that you're with and increase the passion, love and romance in any relationship. I can tell you this, fellas, there are many, many more things you do wrong. I could be here for hours and go through the list for example, what do you do wrong when you ask a woman out on a date? There's a million things that guys do wrong. What do you do wrong when you're on a date? Well, let me just give you a couple things. You're on a date with somebody, what do you do wrong? First thing you do wrong is you talk about yourself.
[00:46:30] When you're with a woman, you have two ears and one mouth. Use them proportionately.
[00:46:36] Be interested in them. Ask about them. Give a basic compliment. If you don't know their love language yet, then you could say something like, you really look terrific in that outfit.
[00:46:47] That's a good compliment. Always say one compliment. That's a word of affirmation. That may be the person's love language. Maybe it's not. But don't go over the top. The mistake that guys make on a first date or a second date or third is they slobber compliments on the woman.
[00:47:03] You don't want to do that.
[00:47:05] Next, when you come into the restaurant, do you hold the chair open for her and do you touch her on the shoulder as she sits down? Do you open the door?
[00:47:16] That gentle touch. If her love language is affection via touch, you've hit that. If it's not, it's not offensive as long as you do it just once or twice in the evening.
[00:47:28] Things of this nature.
[00:47:31] There's a whole host of things that guys do wrong. But the first, most important one is you talk about yourself and you talk too much and you brag or you are critical of something or someone. If you're critical of someone or something, no good. Next mistake guys make when they're on a date is they treat. If you're going to a restaurant, they treat the valet who's going to park your car, or they treat the waitress or the people they meet person who's checking your coat. You treat them like shit. If you want to elevate yourself, treat every single person with respect.
[00:48:10] Treat them like they're the President of the United States. Thank you very much, sir. I appreciate your help. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Treat the staff extremely good. It elevates you.
[00:48:24] Talk positively about somebody who's not in the room. If you're talking about a colleague, a business associate, only speak positively about people. Don't speak negatively about anybody. Don't talk about any negative scenario about the problems you're having in work. This is idiotic. Talk positively about people. Edify people as when you're talking, but ask questions. Use the six honest serving men and use them till you die. They are, what, when and where? Who, how and why, really? What type of work do you do? What, when, when do you start working there? What, when, where and whereabouts is that office where you work? What, when, where, who? Who do you work with? What are the type of people like what, when, where, who, how? How did you get involved in that field?
[00:49:16] Why did you get involved in that? What was your motivation behind it? You can be there all evening just talking about them and let them talk about their favorite subject, which is themselves.
[00:49:28] Most men don't do it. I went on a date, had a conversation, a couple hours, was a lunch in two hours. Two and a half hours, three hours later, we're still having lunch, chatting. And she said, what a wonderful first date. She goes, you know, you're the only person I went out with on a date that actually asked me about myself.
[00:49:51] Every other guy just talks about themselves the entire time. She goes, I get the impression that you're really interested in me. I says, I'm fascinated with your life. I'm very interested.
[00:50:04] And she's incredibly attracted. At that point, I could have looked like the Hunchback of Notre Dame and she probably still would have liked me because I had her talk about her favorite subject, which is themselves. Use some of these techniques, guys.
[00:50:21] Stop making the mistakes you're making and improve the quality of your relationship. I may do if you have some interest, some shows in the future about how to meet women or how to get a date, what to do on a first date. But these are just some basic things. If you start reading those books, everything will stop falling into place for you. Absolutely, 100%. And then the next thing, of course is I do offer the relationship processes because there are 33 different energetic areas that are in your field from your ancestors and in your own memory bank that's in your field, which act as repellents to women that are counter intention to you meeting the woman of your dreams and having a positive, successful relationship with all the emotional ups and downs. So if you want to consider getting the relationship processes that is going to remove the energetic blocks and change your field, you will develop an attractor field around you that will automatically attract women into your life and make relationships better. And you'll attract the right women that work and blend with you so that you have harmonious, passionate, fun, safe, secure relationships where you don't have emotional ups and downs in them. So consider getting the relationship processes. If you want more information, you can just send us an email to Relationships.
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